Put simply, a good dominant is someone who possesses the very qualities we would describe as a “good person”: kindness, consideration, politeness, empathy, sympathy.
What makes someone a Dom?
A Dom prefers to be dominant during sex. A submissive prefers to submit, that is, to be dominated. It follows that a submissive pursuing another submissive, or a dom pursuing another dom, is looking for something that his love object can’t really offer. 27